Forgiveness carries two personalities,the offender and offended. It is also between humans and God. God’s pardon of your sins,and your duty to pardon others. It entails letting go totally. When God forgives you,He sees you as a new creature,you become pristine. So, in your relationship with others always remember that just as you are prone to mistakes, so is everyone. Always let bygones be bygones.
Forgiveness entails letting go,that moment you still feel anger towards the offender,you have not forgiven such fellow. Yes, it is not easy to let go but, just as I have stated earlier, it is your duty. When you fail at your duty to forgive others, it is just like failing to perform your responsibilities towards your children.
Forgiveness has one crucial part, that is “You” when you don’t forgive yourself,you can’t forgive others, it all starts from within. An unforgiving person loses his/her inner peace.
Inner peace is important in human existence, you will always transfer you happiness to those that surrounds you, but if you lose it, you forget all that matters, that is when the thought of suicide and murder emanated from. An unforgiveness yields trouble.
When I used to be unforgiving, I would always say, “it’s not my fault, I lack it”.But, I noticed I do contemplated evil towards the offender,and I knew wickedness is not a good attribute, I prayed for the spirit and I got to know that is is in me, God’s duty is to help me to discover it. We all have it, we just need to discover it.
HOW TO FORGIVE
When the offense occurs, deem it feet to tell the offender,you might be surprised that the offender might not know that he or she has wronged you. If the person is humble enough to apologise, put on a smiling face and heart,remember the last time you smiled at the person,don’t say it has never happened, no one is entirely bad.
And on the other hand, if the person denies everything and blames you or worse still ignores you,always remember that you are only performing your duty, it is left to him/her to do the same.
Don’t leave God out of it, He is the A and Z(Alpha and Omega),all things starts and ends with him.
It is not easy, but HE can make it easy…